“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” — Wendy Mass
There are few evil people in this world.
The rest are wounded animals lashing out, not knowing how to heal. Your first reaction is to withdraw or to defend. But this is the last thing they need.
Destructive behavior is a mask people wear to hide the hurt they feel inside.
Severe trauma gnaws at them. It drains the light from their lives. They are incredibly vulnerable, and this is a weakness that must not be exposed. So they overcompensate with aggressiveness.
You certainly aren’t obligated to help, but a little kindness and understanding can be just the thing they need to climb out of the dark hole they’ve fallen into. These precious human beings are suffering, and they need your help.
In coaching high school girls, I run across some who are suffering.
One was struggling with cancer. One lost her father earlier in life. Others had unstable homes. The reasons are many and varied, but the signs are similar. Behavioral issues, bad language and poor work ethic.
Some of these girls are even classified as bullies.
While I don’t condone that kind of behavior as a coach, my heart goes out to them. They are so young and already tormented by pain. Some of them are barely hanging on.
Adults dealing with trauma are not much different.
Some of them have suffered since childhood. They were once like the troubled girls I coach. But no one showed them the love and kindness they needed to escape the pain. No one showed them the way home.
If you can help even one of them, I encourage you to do so. When you show a soul the way to happiness, the universe smiles on you in return.
🤔 Food for Thought:
What is your first thought when encountering a bully?
Have you ever thought about what might be the cause?
Are they evil or just a wounded animal in need of help?
⚙️ One Small Step:
Not everything is as it seems. When you next encounter a person who lashes out in anger, try responding with kindness. It may take a few attempts to break through. And if they soften after such a response, then you have a priceless opportunity to show them the way home.